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What to Do if You’re Not Ready to Plan a Funeral

Knowing how to arrange a funeral is not a skill many of us have unless we have been through the process before – this can make it feel scary, especially when you are working through your own grief. If you are not ready to plan a funeral or want to delay it for a specific reason, then the team at Viner and Sons have the information you need so that you can make the best possible plans that work for everyone.


When You Want More Time to Grieve

Arranging a funeral can feel like an intrusive process that dehumanises the person that has passed, but this is not the case. Funeral services work hard to help you arrange a service that meets the expectations of the deceased, their family and friends. However, if you feel rushed into organising a funeral and want more time to grieve, talk to your funeral director. They may be able to move the date or support you to find a compromise that works for your needs whilst ensuring that other mourners get to say goodbye too.


When Relatives Cannot Make the Date, or You Can’t Contact Everyone in Time

Funerals offer everyone the chance to say goodbye, and so if you find the date you initially choose is not suitable for everyone, or you don’t have enough time to share the news, then you may want to postpone. Many funeral directors can be flexible by offering you a range of dates to choose from, giving you the time to speak to everyone you want to invite and checking their availability before confirming the finalised date.


When You Can’t Choose the Type of Service You Want

Another reason many people want to put off agreeing to a date is because they are not sure what service they want to choose. Traditional services are not as popular as they once were, but choosing an alternative takes time and consideration. In this case, you just need to let your funeral director know that you can’t agree on a date until you have decided on a service, and they will be able to help you understand the options available.


Postponing the Funeral Service

Finally, if you are not ready to hold a funeral service and worry that you may not be in the right place for some time, then there are steps you can take to achieve this. You may want to consider a private cremation or burial without a service or guests, giving you the space you need. Then, at a later date, you can hold a service for mourners to come and pay their respects. If this sounds like the right choice for you, then contact your funeral director to agree on a way forward together.


Viners and Sons are Here for You

Getting the right funeral advice is the key to achieving the right date and right goodbye for the person you love. Connect with us today and let us help you plan the funeral you want – we are here for you.

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